29 Nov 2009
by irenein Human Nature
8 Ways To Spot Emotional Manipulators:
- There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator.
- An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper.
- Crazy making – saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it.
- Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers.
- Emotional manipulators fight dirty.
- If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor!
- Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them.
- Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability.
Read up, learn, and brace yourself well so you don’t let manipulators control your emotions easily.
27 Nov 2009
by irenein Quotes
Form the habit of making decisions when your spirit is fresh … to let dark moods lead is like choosing cowards to command armies. ~ Charles Cooley
25 Nov 2009
by irenein Jibber Jabber
Ah drama drama! Life is constantly bombarded by it…
If I have learned anything in life, it is that my time on earth is just a brief journey. I seriously do not have time to deal with nonsense. So, to those soul-sucking manipulative and temperamental individuals out there, I bid sayonara, terima kasih, dada, and please get out of my way.
And hey, if this makes me seem like a cold and calculating bitch, so be it. I stand by my decision.
23 Nov 2009
by irenein Jibber Jabber, Movies, Books & TV Shows
In an episode of That 70′s Show, there was a lighthearted discussion about fathers and sons.
Eric was wondering out loud why he did not turn out to be like his father, in which he thinks is a bear of a man. His friends told him that he was born a baby bear but got pounded into a duck. And they all laughed it off…
My father was the headmaster of a primary school. For 30 years of his life, it was his job to put on a stern exterior and to enforce discipline among 500 students and 15 teachers. At times, he brings this bearness back home. My siblings and I could have easily been pounded into little ducklings if my father would have acted like a dictator. But fortunately this was not the case in my family and we all turned out fine, I think. 
21 Nov 2009
by irenein Human Nature
Quite a few years back, I read an article about the influence of the internet on people. In short, the general analysis predicted dehumanization of some sort.
I may agree with some of the arguments. Certain people, particular shy people, will submerge deeper into their cocoons. With online shopping, emails, virtual realities and networks, the human touch can be easily forgone and neglected. This reminded me of several Sci-Fi novels.
Anyway, I believe there are always balance at work in nature. At the other end of this dehumanization process, there are people who use the internet as a key to get out of their shells. I think I am such an individual. Instead of retreating into a comfortable world of virtual identities, I have used the internet to overcome my timidness and break out of my social comfort zone. I have built and maintained many steadfast (real life) relationships because I can be my true self.
Cheesy as it may sound, the internet has helped me to become a better person.
19 Nov 2009
by irenein Quotes
Be regular and orderly in your life, so that you may be violent and original in your work. ~ Gustave Flaubert (French writer, 1821-1880)
17 Nov 2009
by irenein Jibber Jabber
Mom called me a Little Santa. I like to give things to people. When in Malaysia, these are usually second hand items that my family have no use for anymore. And our helper Christina was mainly the receiver of these things. All this was part of my de-cluttering process.
When in America, my gift giving reached a whole new level because I had a high income and can splurge on many nice things. Truthfully, I rather be giving my time, my attention and any help that I can provide. I think those make better gifts than stuff.
In Europe, I became the receiving end of the old stuff since all I brought with me is one suitcase. I’ve been eyeing those clothes containers which I will one day dump my things into… or I can always give my stuff away to my sister-in-law. With my particular Belgian family, gift bearing became a little more complicated and at times tiresome. I posted something about the tiring gift giving process in Europe last X-mas. My simple conclusion is that the whole thing seems …hmm… wasteful?
Anyway, it’s the time of the year again. Birthdays, X-mas, New year. Good grief. But as a wise friend wrote in her Facebook message to me, you get gifts back, be happy about that. Oh well, I guess.
15 Nov 2009
by irenein Belgium
Two years of living in Belgium…
- I no longer carry an umbrella with me everywhere I go.
- I no longer think that I will die of a cold if I get rained on.
- I do not mind a light drizzle and have even learned to enjoy it.
- Rain is beautiful when you look at it from inside a building. Ha!
So here’s a toast to the cold, gloomy, wet Belgian weather. I have adapted, enjoy and even appreciate!
13 Nov 2009
by irenein Quotes
The supreme accomplishment is to blur the line between work and play. ~ Arnold Toynbee
11 Nov 2009
by irenein Human Nature
I’ve mentioned in earlier posts that I was a hot tempered little girl. WAS being the key word here. It does not go away, this temper of mine. There’s really no cure. It just gets tamed and managed as I aged.
So what makes me lose my temper? Throughout the years, I notice that I am most likely to lose my temper only when I lose my patience first. The danger here is that I do not have a lot of patience despite this calm docile Asian exterior and a Greek name that means Peace. 
I can recall quite a few instances when I just turned nasty and scolded people. Thankfully, most of these episodes didn’t end up in disasters. Careless Mei Fung changed for the better and managed to reorganize my mom’s 10 year old filing system. Ungrateful John shuts up and shaped up after I gave him the good old lashing, which in turn made the work environment a whole lot better for everyone.
I am not trying to condone bad temper. Anger is energy, we just need to learn how to steer it towards the right direction and create something positive out of it.
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